First and foremost is Criticise.

To criticise is to judge, blame and accuse someone of something he did/ did not do. It is also to add salt to wounds, to be scornful and trying to hurt the other party's feelings.

 

Secondly is to Complain. A certain level of complain is acceptable but too much of it will cause others to feel just as bad or even dislike the person. It also demoralises people and might also increase negative feelings leading to frustration.

 

The Third factor is to Self victimise. Making yourself the great sacrificial lamb; suppressed all emotions; claim that you are the only good and hard working one while the rest are irresponsible. Accuse others of not recognising your contribution, and not caring for you. Refuse when others offer help.

 

Next, the fourth factor is to Exaggerate. Making a mountain out of a molehill. A small wrong committed will be blown out of proportions. A trivial mistake will be treated as a mortal sin. This kind of over-reaction will make others feel angry and eventually cause retaliation.

 

In addition, the fifth point is to Compare. Not accepting others and always comparing with others will hurt the pride of others and invite strong retaliation.

 

Lastly, Keep scores. Count all the wrongs others committed and take revenge for each of them. Induce self-defense and create hostility. Bear grudges and constantly think of ways to punish the other. Become unforgiving and seek revenge.

 

These attitudes mentioned above causes relationships of any kind to be in the doldrums, and create strong tensions. When disappointment, frustration and resentment starts to brew, the relationship will sour, and life can become miserable.

 

Two persons can be looking out of the same window. One sees a clear blue sky and feels blissful and joyous while the other sees the muddy road and feels depressed and sad. In relationships, you can choose to be positive or negative. It is all up to you. Know that your attitude will affect your interaction pattern. Learn to adopt a positive approach in treating each other so that you can have a joyous and happy life together with others.

The purpose of my blog today is to collect wisdom from my life experience and pen it down in this blog. Philosophical truths are created everyday, everywhere and almost every second. Thus, I would like to share my thoughts and hopefully, you too, would be inspired to write your blog of philosophys.